I think its over help pls

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And I'm not completely buying the "she always said things were fine" routine. I've been there. It's the quick and easy answer when we get caught blindsided and have our hearts ripped out.


You were her husband. Tell me that when you first fell in love you relied on asking her to tell if she was unhappy or not. Go ahead, try and tell me that.


Ok I do need to address this. My W and I were friends long before lovers. And yes when we first fell in love I would need to ask if she was happy with this or that or a situation. She is a very "shy quiet type" she is not outwardly expressive with emotions and expressions and she can be very straight faced about things. Obviously happy when laughing yes but everyday things she keeps a reserved face. When something is truly wrong I can tell. But at the same time I was under the misperception that the words coming out of her mouth meant what was said and not an obscure hint at something else. Because since when does can you help clean this up = I am unhappy with our marriage and I am going to find happiness somwhere else. Thats a sample of some of her statements the fog ??? I don't know.