H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[Mila]

Punkin - don't think that it's easy to keep it civil between us....I am working on it very hard....I stopped commenting on anything he does...just ignoring it, pretending that he is being rational...not making him feel guilty, not letting him provoke me....just being Zen...and coming to vent here.

Just an example....OW's H shared with me that his wife told him that my H told her that he has a better relationship with his D the she has with her mother (meaning me)....in the past the injustice of that statement would hurt so much and I would probably cry for hours...and yes possibly even confront him about saying that. But now....I know that he is delusional, saying it to make himself feel better and look better in front of OW....how desperate....so I just feel sorry for him.