Sounds like SIL has a lot to deal with and her H's attitude is making it so much harder than it should be. Reconciling is hard work, I know that even if I haven't ever done it, and after an affair it is even more so because that's one huge betrayal to forgive. Why did he bother coming back around and proposing a second chance if he wasn't truly invested?
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