In the process

[newmama]

ok now I had a chance to read what I posted and I want you to trust that I left out plenty of details about her H being insensitive to her pain and vulnerability. He doesn't even say "I love you" to her. She said she is living with a roommate.
If the situation was different, I wouldn't be supporting her decision to divorce ( AND I DID NOT VOICE MY OPINION) and I did say things like "it can only get better. They say that reconciling is extremely difficult, right? What are the small things that he is doing to show he cares? Good for you for staying strong. I guess when you thought marriage was hard before, it wasn't like this. BUt you can get through it."

I did also tell her that I could see why she would want to divorce him, because if he doesn't ever "get it" then how can she live a life of misery? I also asked her if she goes around bringing it up a lot and she says no, but there are these triggers. So after the triggers take place, she suppresses it and then she blows up at him eventually. After she blows up, he is nicer to her for awhile.

Anyway I told her to hang in there and she is a very strong woman and I admire her. We'll be visiting her next week!

Oh and she doesn't like talking to my exH (her brother) and no, she isn't seeing him for the holidays. I didn't ask much more than that but I admit I was curious!