Just my two cents but I don't think this is a good approach. You're concentrating on the negative. The lies are a symptom of the MLC. The MLC is, in essence, a mental illness. I'm not, IN ANY WAY, saying that what your H is doing is excusable. But realize that the lies are a part of the whole MLC. When I felt the way you did, I remembered that my H was in fact deeply ill. Deeply disturbed. Deeply hurting. Empathy is easier to find that way. It seems that you're seeing small glimpses of his pain every now and again. And it is very very real. My H told me that there were days that he'd wrap himself in his comforter in his apartment and just stare and the ceiling for hours depressed.
Good advice A. I was going to respond here, but it was just too relevant for me. I’m going to scoot this over to my thread to help me in my journey.
