When a spouse walks away, it isn't usually a spur of the moment decision. The groundwork for her desire to be out of the relationship was laid bit by bit over many years.
She started out trusting you and believing in you. She started out knowing that you would love her and relish her presence in your life.
As the years went by and she found out time and again that what she believe was in fact not true...well...it changes people inside. She didn't wake up one morning and decide to go. She talked herself in to this being her only suitable response to life with you.
I don't say this to further cut you.
I say this to further drive home the point that this will not be fixed in a short amount of time, and it will not be fixed with a few weeks or months of kind words.
It will take time.
It sounds like you are working on your problems. This is what you CAN do right now. And you damned well better take it seriously, because if you are given another chance, I think it will likely be your last. Make these changes REAL and LASTING, and make them because you AGREE that they need to be made, NOT because you want your marriage back.
You.
Work on you.
Leave her alone.
It sounds ridiculous, but I'm certain it's right.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
