If you will look at your own posts and read what your W is telling you, you'll see the answer. Not everyone is as lucky. Many W's do not welcome time spent with the H. She's telling you that she wants to be with you. She wants romance! She may not be touchy-touchy(I'm not either), but it doesn't mean she doesn't need and want intimacy. Her love language is not the same as yours. But, if her emotional needs are being met.....then she will be able to cuddle up with you.
It seems like you two are pretty young to be sleeping in separate rooms. I assume there isn't much sex, from what's been said. You may see it as being lazy,but she,may think that she doesn't excite you any more.
Here's the thing, you see yourself as a big teddy bear. Women don't want to have sex with a teddy bear! Need I say any more? Time to make things happen around your place. Stop with the boring lifestyle and put some sizzle into the M.
If you want to see a big difference in how this could be turned around, then I suggest you place your W ahead of your parents. Tell your W that this is going to be a Thanksgiving holiday just for your immediate family. That way, she knows you care and she'll see you putting her and the MR before being with your parents.
About your father......that was very hard for your W to tell you about his hugs. She's been caring that around for a long time. I'm sure your dad is great, but he hasn't learned how to hug his DIL in the appropriate manner. He is being too personal with her.....maybe he accidently brushes against her breast or touches her in a way that certainly makes her feel uncomfortable.Hopefully, he will be more careful from now on. She's embarrased about them knowing about her now. She just needs some time before feeling like she can face them again.
Don't leave her there alone on Thanksgiving......b/c if you do...you will regret it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
