Hey T, I'm sorry your h shot down you offer. It would have been nice for him to put the kids first.
But he couldnt. For a few reasons - one in which, as you said, was that he saw it as you controlling. The other is fear. Fear that you are trying to lure him back in and change his mind. Fear of looking at what he's done. Best to stick to his plan, in his mind.
So, you did the right thing. For me, that matters. I no longer worry about what he thinks or feels. It's how I feel. And if it feels right to me, then that's a good thing.
You have no control over how he parents. And no amount of MC or anything else is going to change his mindset. It's best for you to just do the best you can for your children, be there for them, protect them as best you could.
I know it is frustrating when you have small children. Frustrating and worrisome. But, as long as you are their rock, their safe place and they know they can come to you, they will be ok.
You are going to have times when you feel angry, overwhelmed and sad. And that's ok.
Just remember who you are. Sweetie, you are doing great.
