And it is what is happening. So you have to pick yourself up and begin anew. It happens and we should learn and grow from it.
It is tiring and it is not always easy. But it gets easier.
Don't be sad about my STBX...
I am really good with all of it. It took me a lot of time but I had to get off of the crazy train.
That doesn't mean I failed.
In fact, we have a decent relationship. Considering he is still a bit nuts... LOL...
My H, has many issues to deal with. And it is going to take him a very long time, if he ever does...
This is his journey...
Do I sometimes wish it could have been different? Yes...
Am I going to let it ruin the rest of my life? No...
I wish him well. I still have love for him in my heart. I believe that is possible because of all that I learned here.
DB principals, helped me learn how to improve my relationship with him, and how to improve my relationship with other people as well as with myself. I can't really ask for anything more than that.
We don't all reconcile our marriages. I wish there was a guarantee that it would happen but there isn't.
That does NOT mean that we should not try though.
So here is a thought, for this afternoon...
Don't keep interacting with H right now about his where abouts.
Don't get into an argument about it later.
Just let it be. Take a bath, take a nap or go to bed early.
Take some time for you and don't worry about where he was or wasn't...
Just for today...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
