I am really hurting right now. My husband and I have had some "couples friends" throughout our marriage. In most cases, they were his guy friends,but when they started dating and eventually marrying I became friends with their wives. Since this whole thing happened 6 mos ago I have not seen any of these wives. I was invited to two events since everything happened, prior to any of our friends knowing,and turned both down as I was not able to eat, sleep, and barely functioning at the time. Since things have detiorated my husband has let his guy friends know, he says anyway. With all the lies he has told me, I have no clue what he has told them though. I reached out to one of the girls on facebook today, she happened to be on and I asked her how her new house was. I got no reply and she went offline. This pain, at times, is unbearable. I did not do anything and he has hurt me so much. But on top of the pain he has caused I lose friends, family, and possibly my house. I am so hurt by her response to me, it hurts so much. How can someone who used to love me cause this much pain to me? I could not even do this to someone I don't like. The kicker is - he wants us to remain friends through all of this.
Is it possible that your friend might not have seen your Facebook message? Sometimes I've been chatting with people and one or both of us lost the connection but the other one didn't know. I'd send emails to those you really want to keep in touch with and ask if they would like to go to lunch. I confronted a few of "our" friends who seemed to be ignoring me, and they said they just didn't know what to do or how to reach out, or whether I'd even want to talk to them because they worked with H. Your friends may be feeling the same way, and waiting for you to make the effort.
