Now that you know, and have spoken to her, as well as your H, please keep the info to yourself.
Sharing it with friends and family, will just color their view of the situation and make potential reconciliation more difficult.
Is there any validity to him accusing you of only thinking of yourself?
Is it something that you feel you want to change for you or for your M, or not at all?
Very little, is unchangable if we want to change it.
I am blond and Polish. A deadly combination. I sometimes do really dumb things like grab Scrubby Bubbles instead of hairspray. And realize it when it is too late.
I am also very intelligent. However, I have to slow myself down, to change what is something that is essentially unchangable about myself.
If you want to change something, you can. It won't happen overnight, sometimes it might take a very long time, but it is possible. Just make sure that it is really something that you feel needs changing if you are going to do it.
Looking inside, is hard, but it is what helps us all grow on this journey.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
