It is great that you still recognize that your wife is still in crisis.
I am not far from the same final path that you are on now.
When I see your sitch it is so close to mine that I enjoy reading every part of it. (Inlaws included)
Yup, they still have anger after all of this time. How long are they going to wallow in that? Until they decide they are not going to wallow, that's how long.
Gee, you and I have to be thankful this Thanksgiving that we know that they are not done. How many other H's out there are clueless that their W is even in crisis.
Live my life all angry and bitter, yup not for YOU sir.
That is what to be thankful for your blessings is all about. I am sure that when you are saying grace before that turkey meal this year that you will truly, I MEAN truly be thankful for what GOD has shown you.