H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[Mila]

Thank you SA - yes it still amazes me too...we were always on the same page in thinking with my H....same views, same standards....you know....and now we don't seem to be even from the same planet....

But on the positive note, after all my ranting yesterday that H is not willing to do anything for D...I receive an email this morning....that he looked into the battery and changing the tires for D's car and talked to our mechanic, got prices and suggested that we together (him & I) take it there to be done and while we wait for it we can have a meeting.

He also spent 3 hours with D yesterday at his place...and that's at least something...D really misses him.

She is also very loyal to both of us a I think she feels trapped in the middle. When she told me yesterday that he asked her to pick him up at the airport, she added..."but mom don't be mad at him, and don't tell him I told you, he will be mad at me"....so sad. I told her that I don't talk to him about what we talk about.

Also the other day she was reading to me an essay she wrote for school and one of the sentences was something like this...."I have great relationships with my friends, but not so great with my family....my parents recently separated"....makes me want to cry.