I am SO sorry! Sending you a cyber (((HuG)))! Hold your kids tight and draw strength from them...
This guy is a real snake, a realm predator to go after another man's wife when he knows you've been working on the marriage. Sounds to me your wife will realize (maybe too late ) that he's the type that "If he'll do cheat with her, he'll cheat on her"!
Pull away, let her know that by her actions she is making a choice. DETACH, think of yourself...
It's the male instinct to be jealous about OM, so it is normal... But you can control your thoughts, which guide your emotions.
This sounds way more involved than my EA.... But, she's made a choice and if she doesn't 't choose to look deeper into herself and the REALITY of the situation, versus FANTASY... Well, her loss.
You can only control yourself GW. Can YOU get away, minimize some contact with her, find some activities and exercise for you???
Take care of yourself ... I'm so sorry it's taken this turn. But, unless a WAW wants to give it a shot with a H who is WILLING to work at M, you can't make it happen alone. And obviously, she is willing to put M at risk by continuing EA... Not sure if you had to discover or she was transparent?
