Just make sure if you start to date someone that you find an older woman who has already gone through her mid-life BS! HE-HE!! no young woman who needs to "find herself". IF that happens, RUN RUN RUN!!!!!!!
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
Just make sure if you start to date someone that you find an older woman who has already gone through her mid-life BS! HE-HE!! no young woman who needs to "find herself". IF that happens, RUN RUN RUN!!!!!!!
TAMF!!
Older Woman???!!!!!!
I was already told by other "OLDER WOMEN" that if my W has this now, just wait till she hits Menopause!!!
Just hit me in the F'ing head!!!
1. Meet older woman. 2. Older woman hits menopause within 5 years. 3. My IC said his W's menopause lasted 10 years. 4. I can think of more fun things to do.
No wonder there is a such a huge problem with alcohol in our state!!!
I like to have one or two once in a while, but I can't do the six pack dance every night!!!
Oh my gosh, your post where you're listing your criteria for what type of woman you would need in a future relationship sounds like me with my internal list of possible men in a future relationship in that mine is so all-encompassing and probably even more specific than yours that I seriously doubt I'll ever find anyone again!
Mine has things like "must have full head of hair, must love cats, must have his own life/friends and be independent and respect my life/friends and independence (this criteria is ALL NEW and very unlike my marriage in which we were totally co-dependent and had only the same friends), must have at least a bachelor's degree, must be well-read, must not be depressed, must be "past" his childhood issues if he had them, must not have cheated on someone, must not have kids or want kids, must be good-looking to me, must be fairly physically fit, must be kind and respectful and sensitive yet also masculine (no metro-sexual types), I mean, the list goes on.
I don't know if this is how you feel, but I feel like we have been so knocked down in terms of self-esteem in that we were "chosen" to be someone's mate and now we're not "chosen" anymore, and as a result, we want to have a good life with someone else in the future, but when we think about what would make that relationship better than the one that hurt us so badly in the end, we have this list that just seems insurmountable.
I guess there has to be someone out there for each of us who DOES fit all the criteria, but I also feel like if we're looking for him/her, he/she will never show up.
I mean, I didn't have a "list" when I met my H, and he was perfect for a long time for me and I for him. Or were we? Did we just "become" perfect in one another's eyes until we lost that?
So maybe if we look for the person with all the qualities on our list, we wont' find him/her, but if we sit back and let life happen, maybe someone will come along who doesn't have every quality but has others, and that person will become perfect in our eyes at the time that it is right.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
I was already told by other "OLDER WOMEN" that if my W has this now, just wait till she hits Menopause!!!
Just hit me in the F'ing head!!!
1. Meet older woman. 2. Older woman hits menopause within 5 years. 3. My IC said his W's menopause lasted 10 years. 4. I can think of more fun things to do.
