The old friend thing is a little bit tricky for me, because I do not want to end up in the same place as WAW. Before the bomb was dropped, I did not have a face book page and now I do. Old girlfriends and high school crushes are starting to show up and I am in a vulnerable position right now. My wife says hurtful things to me every other day now and I am the one avoiding R conversations because of it. Most of them are not factually true but I know confronting her now with facts is futile. I have done it though and all she will do is shift the focus to something else and minimize the importance of it. She does this with time lines a lot because she does not want to acknowledge (even to herself) that her relationship with OM did not "just happened" and that it started before she dropped the bomb on me.
Me 39 W 37 S 5 D 2.75 Married 12 years Together 14 years Bomb Dropped 08/16/10