I am not so sure about trying to figure out who the number is...
People can and do change...
If you hate snooping, maybe just better to leave it alone for now...
As a woman, I can tell you, you don't get married and dream about sleeping in separate rooms, or spending your time alone, even if you are in the same house.
It doesn't foster intimacy. Which is something that women need.
How were you when you and your W were dating? How did you make her feel special, desired, loved?
It really does sound like you guys have been living two separate lives.
It also sounds like she might be wondering if you can find that common ground again.
I wrote her letters, I'd send her flowers, I know she really missed the letters. She asked me to stop sending flowers b/c they cost so much. And I definitely got less romantic. It takes two though you know, and it's hard to feel romantic when your partner isn't really the affectionate type. I'm more of a cuddle up and lets watch TV together kinda guy and she's not so much into touching. Just never has been. She knows there's some issues there but just says that's how she is and wont get help for it. Problem is, I do love her, but my needs weren't being met so I found my outlet and sunk myself into it instead of trying to find solutions to our problems. We're both part of the problem, we're just at different places right now within our problem. She's ready to give up, i'm not. But she's willing to stick around a lil while to see if something changes her mind.
Me 36 W 35 Children S7 / D6 Married 11 years. ILYBNILWY Oct 29,2010 2 Dogs :-D
