I am not so sure about trying to figure out who the number is...
People can and do change...
If you hate snooping, maybe just better to leave it alone for now...
As a woman, I can tell you, you don't get married and dream about sleeping in separate rooms, or spending your time alone, even if you are in the same house.
It doesn't foster intimacy. Which is something that women need.
How were you when you and your W were dating? How did you make her feel special, desired, loved?
It really does sound like you guys have been living two separate lives.
It also sounds like she might be wondering if you can find that common ground again.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
