Hi Barkley, Let me give some dating advice. Often times I think I take the opposite view of most people on here...
First off, when was your divorce final? You just got the "bomb" this past Feb. and you're already dating? What's the hurry? The way I see it, you need to spend some time really grieving and really being alone again to find out who you are and what you want. You have to learn to be "whole" again before you can go out and start over with someone else. Without feeling, the healing can't begin. Does that make sense?
At this point, it sounds like you are getting yourself into a "rebound relationship" and that usually doesn't end up so well. Please get the book, "Rebuilding, When Your Relationship Ends" and you'll see what I mean.
My XH gave me the bomb in May 2009, our divorce was final this past May, and I just started dating about a month ago. Prior to that, I hung out with myself and my new friends and learned how to be happy and complete again. I'm telling you, be careful. You're very vulnerable now and not thinking clearly...I've been there!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
