Great post - especially for a newcomer. After reading advice from both sides, I have been really thinking about it, and I realize that there is time for everything. There is a time to beg, pursue, and let out your initial anger andfear (hopefully at this point it does not destroy the M right away). There is a time to pause, let it sink in, then start taking positive action , and for me that was when I foiund DB'ing, and it is a Godsend. Then setting boundaries, ultimatums, tough love - this may or may not be needed, as the circumstances unfold. Glad though that you reminded everyone out there, that saving the Mariage is the #1 priority! More power to you!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
