Hit by truck 2 months ago

[Truegritter]

MC thinks i should tell her the changes i have discovered in myself.

Sorry I don't agree. Not the time for that.

Show her. When the opportunity presents itself.

She won't believe words.

And

She may even feel it is pursuing.

What you are doing (and I want you to really think about this) is saying:

"I want our M back right now, look I have made all these changes, I did all this and I want our M back right now, it doesn't matter what you want right now. This is about me and when I want it."

Think about this. Really think about it.

Should I keep this all to myself and wait for her to come to me about talking

Yes. She IS watching you.

Of course he is always telling me to assume it is over.

If he is saying ASSUME it is over it might not be a bad way to look at it. Meaning you can't control her you only control you and so that is where you put your faith.

You decide when it is over for you. From a place of strength, not weakness.

You want to be able to look back and say I gave my best.

And only you can say what that is.

BUT

If I may, and I will, BEST is not letting someone's actions or inactions decide for you. Not letting that dictate what you believe.

I am tired of this. It is preparing me for the end

Frustration is an emotion don't make decisions with it.

I feel better when I am excited about getting my marriage back.

Good but you use it for you not as an expectation. It will burn through your energy.

The reality is you are not guaranteed you will get your M back.

So what are you prepared to do if you not guaranteed this will happen?