Kis emotional IQ is different than school smarts, so I wouldn't let your son know more than the basics. Often times really smart kids get overwhelmed on emotional stuff because they aren't at the same level developmentally as they are in IQ.
My policy is don't lie, but keep it short. Lots of little convresations with a child lets them process at their own rate and helps keep them from being overwhelmed.
I really think it is hardest with the kid stuff. It seems to be what is driving my detachment right now. I'm trying to just let my anger be what it is. Not let it drive my decisions, but not sweeping it under the rug either.
For now I am standing, but it is about me, not H anymore. Very odd, but I wasn't ready before.
