Since I first read your post yesterday I've been trying to figure out what to say. All of us came to this site trying to save our Ms, so it is sad to see a M move toward its end.....but it takes more than one person to make a M................
You have a very good head on your shoulders and I know that you have given your decision much thought. You are the person who best knows what is right for your situation. I'm glad that you have found a place of peace in this decision.
My best to you friend.
GAG
Thank you GAG, as I have been posting to you over the last weeks and months I know that many.....and even myself saw all the positives in my situation and in my interactions with my W.
I know that many on the boards here will be surprised and even shocked that I filed. I can hear some of the comments now
"How could he file?" "I thought he was making progress?" "I thought he knew what he was talking about?" "There has got to be someone else"
and on and on......
I know that many were really pulling for me and my W to get back together.
Guess what?????
WE MIGHT....no she did not tell me that but it is a possibility. I still love my W.
Do you know what????
Me loving my W alone does not sustain our marriage. The marriage is over and yes.....it is sad. But the happy part is that I am now a whole person and will be a better Man, Father and God willing a better Husband some day.
I hope that no one is disallusioned by my decision nor loses their hope for reconciling thier marriage, rather I hope that my experience demonstrates that above all things you do for your M. The number one thing you can do is........
Save yourself first.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
