In the process

[newmama]

Hi Mystik! BTW don't feel obligated to post if you are just reading along Many times I don't post on others' because someone else already said what I was thinking or I just plain don't have anything positive to share. Like "yeah, that is terrible and your life is really hard right now. I can't think of anything to help you feel better." How dismal is that, lol?

Awest- I know they say the WAS family usually cracks and ends up accepting the WAS and their OP. It is just a slap in the face for them to do it before the divorce is final!!!But OW will never be able to truly "take your spot." If the extended family knows the truth, hopefully she will feel ashamed and uncomfortable.

I admit that I still care if he takes OW to my SIL's place but I don't care so much if it is his dad's or mom's. The reason is that my exSIL has been so adamant about not having OW in her house or seeing OW or condoning that relationship that it would really hurt to see her "back pedal."

FM, CW and Mystik- I hope I never hear that news obviously! BUt I am realistic to know it will affect me. I just want to be able to be in a point where I can think of this without thinking of the affair/betrayal. You know, like how my parents divorced without an affair. If exH and I parted on different terms, then it would hurt that he remarried but it would also most likely feel different. In this case, I was so positive for so long that they wouldn't last and now it has been 20 months. But who's counting? lol If you notice, I don't talk about him and her and "the affair" as much as I used to so I hope that is progress.