May God grant you always... A sunbeam to warm you, A moonbeam to charm you, A sheltering angel, so nothing can harm you. May your pockets be heavy and your heart be light. May good luck pursue you each morning and night.
Whatnow.....all I can say is Cheers!!!! and Thank You.
If I ever get out that way, first round is on me.
SA and CW, You guys will get there, you will know it when it happens. The funny thing is that it happens when you stop trying to make it happen......I was literally sitting at lunch last Wednesday, and had the option of going back to the office to do some more CBT's(computer based training) or taking the rest of the day off.
It hit me at that moment.
The marriage is over......I know its over and I know I need to be the one that pulls the trigger......for me. That simple, when I walked out of the courthouse I felt peace and happiness.
I am glad it took as long as it did, if it happened any faster I might not have done the hard work on ME.
Mila, I know you are here standing beside me.....it is liberating when you know that you have done all you can and you can hold your head high.....but not out of spite for our spouses but rather holding our heads high for what we acheived for ourselves....some will look at us and say "It took MHL over a year to get over his wife" or "It took over a year for him to let go".
I prefer to say, "I have had a growth spurt for over a year"!!!!
Brook All I can say to you is thank you for your wisdom......
I am so sorry for the troubled waters you and your son are in now.....I will be praying for you.....You know how to reach me if you want to talk about the mortgage thing.
God is watching......
He sees..... He protects.... He provides.... His word prevails.......always.
Cat,
Yes, I do remember that person and he is no more.....it has been a journey for sure and there are still other demons I fight and they too will fall in TIME.
Sometimes if I want to cringe, I go back and read my thread....whoa!!! It really does highlite the path we are all on.
Originally Posted By: Cadet
Originally Posted By: missherlove
On Wednesday, November 17, 2010, I went to the courthouse and filed for divorce.
Is there any more details to this? A waiting period? Does anyone have to agree?
I agree with what everyone else has written.
Now if you could just cut down on the liquor consumption!
Leave it to Cadet for the mechanics of the sitch....JK.
Here is the skinny......on or about Dec. 17 the courts will set a trial date. At that time I have to go down and submit some more paperwork. We have a legal separation as it is which spells out everything so it should be easy.
We will not get into court before the end of the year, so this will go on into Jan 2011. At that time my STBXW and I will go to court and appear before a judge. It is up to the judge as to whether or not he grants us a divorce. I guess either one could contest but that would just cost money.
As far as the Likker consumption......ahhhh, well....let me get back to you on that one.
TT, And that is what is all about. There are many "success stories" on the boards......I know for a fact that I am one of them.
YOU will be too.
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
I am honored to know you my friend, honored.
The honor is all mine.....I would be a little more honored if you would get your honorable a$$ down here sometime!!!!
Thank you my friend.
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
Cause honestly dude, not many people can say...."I gave it everything I had and then some...and then...I gave a little more". You can say it dude. You have given so much and now you are giving your W the ultimate gift of LOVE. You are letting her completely go.
...if you love something let it go....if it returns it was meant to be..
You know I think my W was very much like me in that we both stood at the edge of the cell/cage and got scared. I walked out never to return again.......I think she needed a little nudge,
soooooooo
I gentlely eased her out of the cage and then took the cage apart.
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
My hope is that the BOTH of YOU find your happiness.
You know I hope she does the work on her to find the happiness I have found, really and truly.
I always used to say that I would never be her friend in divorce.....however my feelings have changed.
I am not saying that I "will" be her friend in divorce....
BUT
I now know I could.
Cheers
Hey, BTW did anyone realize that Thanksgiving falls on Little Friday this year???????
That was funny folks.....don't forget to laugh!!!!
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
