New here, looking for help.

[MisterHopeful]

Ok...don't go back...you have GREAT positives.

Saying she didn't want me to drop my hobby completely b/c I'll end up resenting her.... I dont feel that way but she does.

She loves you. Be happy.

Thank you, I think i'm headed in the right direction. But had a bit of a low tonight while making dinner. She said she talked with her friend (who's on her 2nd marriage) about me talking to my parents. Anyways, her friend was telling her Thanksgiving was going to be weird and she wouldn't even want to go. She said she told her friend, "I dont want to but... "

I told me wife right then, nicely, that she didn't have to go if she didnt want to. It was wrong of me to put pressure on her to go in the first place and she was released from any obligations to go. She promptly countered with
Her, "So you just dont care anymore huh?"
Me, "No, quite the opposite, I care a lot, but I dont want to force you into something you dont want to do... i'm still hopeful we can work things out"
Her, "How long do you think this period of being "hopeful" will last?"
Me, "I dont know there's a time limit on this sorta thing.."

Anyways, exerted a pleasant attitude the entire time but inside I was weeping. I'm kinda big teddy bear type guy and surprised tears didn't well up but anywho.