Update: not really an update. Nothing has moved forward or backward for that matter. On Sat. Night she invited me to watch a movie with her. Of course we were in separate places, she on the couch and me on the chair. I was really agitated about it. She picked it up and it grew into an R discussion. I told her (stupidly) that I missed that stuff with her - the hand holding, the kissing, the affection.
She then said that where she is now - inviting me to watch a move WAS her show of affection. I then felt bad.
On Sunday morning, I had to go into work for a meeting and was pissed and snapped at her before I left. Some of it w as R related as we talked about her "friend" BTW I'm starting to believe her on that.
She said that he was the least of our problems in working things out.
I think she has this fantasy about temporary separation. Of course she keeps saying "We'll talk about the separation thing tomorrow." Then we never talk about it.
Last night she invites me into her room to talk (no R) before bed. I was pretty good and I had her laughing. She thank me for giving her space. I think she really appreciate my work on changes - though it's killing me not to be affectionate or sleep in the same bed or just hang out like we used to.

Then this morning as we were leaving we stopped by the cars and she said "Can I give you a hug?" Of course I said yes.

Okay, so I have a few questions.
1. Should I initiate the temporary separation talk that she keeps putting off? I actually did some research on this a little i.e. places to live, costs, etc.
2. How do I react when she wants to give me a hug? I don't want to shut her down.
3. I also filled out the Divorce paperwork- Summons and Complaint & related docs (she asked me to do this before she decided to take it off the table) I have to admit it's a little scary seeing it in black and white and I think she would probably agree. I'm not going to show her, but I wonder if she might accidentally see it. I don't really put it up.

I guess I'll keep trucking on. I'm hoping to start sleeping in the same room in the next few weeks. :fingerscrossed:

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.