Thanks CMNM, your posts are very generous and thank you so much for sharing that with me.

My H said he loved me but had lost hope. That he didn't feel the necesarry love and committment. He says he loves OW and she loves him.

I think he probably is in love with OW's idea of him, built on fantasy and childhood escape (she's from him childhood- family friend).

I thank you for reminding me that getting over my anger might help the process with him.

Should I be anything but cordial and businesslike with him right now?

Looking forward to my trip... a friend and her baby, me and my baby.