More of the story. W came clean a little more over the weekend. When she came back, it was because she still felt something there for me, for the kids, and because of the mess of selling everything..... OM and W did not have any bad moment in their relationship... she told him that she was coming back to me and was going to meet all my needs and make it work. she thinks i am the greatest guy in the world.
I know that she never really processed what OM and her relationship meant and didn't want to talk about anything and I know that it just doesn't work that way. You can't sweep feelings under the rug and not expect them to re surface. Right now she doesn't feel any passion and the core connection isn't there. We are doing everything right. She doesn't want anything different from me and doesn't know how to get the connection and the passion back. She tries to meet my needs, but physically she has never got to where I want it to be. We kinda agreed divorce was best then this weekend and she did feel relieved.
I guess I don't know what to do anymore. I was committed to really working hard for 1 to 2 years and then see what it looked like. I know that she has always known I was there for her and has never felt like I moved on.
We have retro and 2 weeks and we are hoping to find answers or directions to take from that. Until then I guess I am just in limbo land again.
