In the days before kids, I'm sure it was a blast to do that...
How much of that put the responsibility of child rearing on her ?
How much is a tolerable level for you ?
How much is a tolerable level for her ?
Now....take her out of that equation.....
and ask....
How much is a tolerable level for your children ?
These things, that were her complaints...
How are you approaching them now?
Are you changing for her ?
If you really listen to what she says , most walk away spouses have spoken their complaints, and we have chosen to ignore the validity of those complaints..
Changing them now, for the wrong reasons, could be considered manipulative...
How many of her complaints "stung" when you heard them ?
There is a saying here, that if something "stings", then there is truth in it...
