Well, had hearing and it was continued. H said he is not keeping me on his benefits so we go back on Dec. 16th. And today my lawyer called to let me know that H is mad because with him dropping me from his benefits he will have to pay more in child support and also my lawyer filed for spousal support because I get a waiver for not taking my benefits. I told H that I would pay half of the increase he had to pay but he refused so I had no choice but to take him to court.
So my lawyer told me that H's lawyer wrote him a letter stating that I can have the house (that we owe on for 20 more years) if I pay for the consolidation loan and he wants the D to go through. There is no way I told my lawyer that I'm doing that and he agreed and said it is just because H doesn't want to have to pay spousal support.
I know H has a big issue with anger depression and also has learning problems so he doesn't get everything (understand I should say), but he even told me when he filed for the no-fault that the only reason he did it was because he was really mad that day.
My lawyer told me not to worry because it will take at least 9 to 12 months for things to be final but he doesn't get how I feel. I know H is sick and I've been standing for this M for 2 years now and if this is also a MLC plus his anger depression I just want him to get help.
I love this man, I should say the man he was before he became a MLC'er. Well, I still love him just not the way he is now.
He was coming around in March then all of a sudden he got worse and worse. So I guess God doesn't want this marriage saved or maybe he doesn't think I deserve this marriage to be saved.
I'm very very confused today. H was just at the house for the first time on Sat. night and he asked if he could talk to me for a couple of min. and I told him that I didn't have time because I was getting ready to go out and he asked again so I said ok and stepped outside. H didn't even talk, it was like a switch went off in his head. H was drunk and just stood there telling me how much he hated me and other mean and nasty things. So I asked him to leave and he wouldn't so I went into the house and locked the doors and he left.
I turned things around the past couple of months and it just made everything worse. All I'm trying to do is protect me and the kids and H thinks that all I want is money when it is him that wants the money. He even said it the day he left. He wanted to have money to pay cash for everything, and go on vacations, and was sick of living paycheck to paycheck.
