Wow they make it so easy for us to screen them out!! Good for you for helping him to open up . NEXT!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
*he has two kids, 14 and 30 months that he is not allowed to see
*his ex filed a "bogus" restraining order but he left the state and never contested it so he lost access/rights to see his kids until they are 18 (I SMELL A PILE OF ROTTING FISH WITH THIS STORY!)
Gee could I be leaving something out? His is 35 and his longest relationship has been 8-10 months (2 of them).
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Well first, during the day on Saturday, S and I met up with the single moms group. Only the leader showed, but she wasn't as chilly as the last time I met her! Her son is 6 weeks younger than S so we might be able to establish a friendship between them
We had a good time at the museum and the boys didn't play together much (except in the water table) but they each had a great time. S got knocked down by a 6 year old and the big kid didn't even stop to say "sorry! are you ok?" His mom was right there, too! SOOOO RUDE! I get it was an accident- I was more upset with the inconsiderate parent!
Then I went down to hang with my good friend and we watched this romantic comedy called "Timer." It was about a technological advancement that is a digital countdown to the day and hour that you will meet your ONE "soulmate." You could get one for 79.99 and they snapped it into the inside of your wrist. When you see your soulmate, your oxytocin levels soar and when they see you, the same thing. Your timer will beep in a synchronized way with theirs. Not everyone chose to get one. The main character's timer was just "dashes" because her soulmate didn't have one. One day, (close to the end of the movie after a bunch of stuff), her timer started counting down. Sure enough, her "one" got his timer the day before. But he was dating her sister!
Ok sorry to recap. It was interesting and original, I thought, and the movie showed downsides to getting one. The youngest age to get one was 14! So that was explored as well.
Anyway, then today, exH dropped off S and stayed for awhile to chat. About S, about the yardwork, about the sickness going around at work. I went with the flow because I am working on mentally preparing myself for if he tells me that he is getting engaged or something. I think if I can hear that, handle it and not react then it means I am truly detached.
Also got some Christmas presents for S...better stop buying now!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I went with the flow because I am working on mentally preparing myself for if he tells me that he is getting engaged or something. I think if I can hear that, handle it and not react then it means I am truly detached.
I would say really good if you don't react at all to that news. I know I would react no matter what. Right now I am having a hard time thinking about how OW will probably already take my spot at Thanksgiving with H's extended family and we are not divorced yet and neither is she. Anyway I would probably keep it together with H, but not alone. Also I don't think H would ever tell me.
With presents, I have three more things to get S, but definitely need to stop too. Have a great holiday!
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89
Newmama, I think that reacting to news like that would be normal. But good for you for mentally preparing yourself.
Glad to read that GAL is going well
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I sure hope you dn't have to hear that particular convo from your H anytime soon! But, if you do...I know you will handle it as you have handled your life this past year...the NM way!
Anyone heard from Mystik lately? I see her thread is locked.
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
. NEXT!