Talk to me about letting go.

[courageous wife]

Hi cwf

I posed a question to a wise DBer awhile back asking the difference between hope and expectations...her answer was very helpful and I believe that it helps with the question of how to let go AND keep hope alive...I posted he answer below...



It is similar to detaching, you recognize that you cannot help the person in what they are going through; in that process you let them go to work on themselves, but you can still have hope that they may return one day.

Having hope and expectations is NOT the same thing...expectations is looking for a outcome, hope is letting go of the expectation of an outcome, but believing the possibility of the outcome hoped for, if that makes sense.

Hope works hand in hand with Faith; without Faith, there is no Belief, and without Belief, there is no Hope, and without Hope, the Love remaining within, can die.

Hope is like leaving an open door for a time, but not expecting anything to happen. IF a positive event happens, it helps to increase the hope within the heart....but expectations must STILL remain at zero, as this is a LONG journey, and an even longer race....even when expectations die, hope can remain alive....you hold on to Hope when you've nothing else to go on or with.

One can move foward without expectations, but maintain their hope for a positive ending.

There is hope as long as one loves the MLC spouse..if that love ever burns out, then all hope is lost.