Talk to me about letting go.

[cat04]

CWF,

I can't tell you how many times I was told that I needed to "let go". By everyone who knew about our sitch.

Like you, I could not understand the logic in that statement. Until it slowly started to happen.

As you let go, you live your life, for you and you alone, you will find that you are doing things without considering him (same as you did prior to your M) and you will find that your choices in how your life is going, are for you. Not for any other reason. And you will be happier. A happier person, isn't so caught up in the drama of the situation, and a happier person is more attractive to other people (in general, not R wise.)

As you do this, and you find yourself happier and more confident, the possibility exists that your H will start to see you differently than you are now. Differently than he is remembering you during your R. More like the person he fell in love with. And this is what maximizes your chances for reconciliation.

Go back and read Mach1's post to you. It really is the way that this works.

If you try to decide your way into something because you think it is what you should be doing, you are going to end up regretting your choices down the road.

For your heart and your head to be in synch on this, you start with your head, just living, and eventually you find that your heart ends up following.

This does not have to mean that the door is closed. If you truly love your H, you will always have love for him in your heart.

Two huge mistakes that I have witnessed people making in this, and I, too have been guilty of them, is trying to force myself to let go, and to allow my fears of what would happen when I did, keep me from doing it.

Let go of the fear of losing your M. The M you remember is gone already. Live for you. You just might be surprised what is down the road.