She does have a rape in her past, and is in IC to deal. Its odd timing that our R from the first was going well for a year or so, then started to slip this summer, OM became a distraction around the same time, and she got into IC late summer. I caught her IM'ng him early fall, and we've spriralled down since. ILYBNILWY on 11/11 and sleeping on the couch since.
There is hope in the IC. Though the C has never met me or heard my side. The C seems to be pushing D, but based on highly fogged info on me and events.
These are the reasons I'm still trying, but I'm getting close to giving up. She has this trauma, it is effecting her, we never got to it during the MC after the PA. As far as I know, this is still an EA, not a PA....Sure is a PIA tho...
Her complaint about me now is that I'm controlling...and she points to the boundaries that she agreed to as a part of the R from the PA. Mostly that her phone would be left around and unlocked, to be checked if I felt like it.
