New here, looking for help.

[MisterHopeful]

Last week, before I'd started reading DR, I'd talked my wife into coming with me and the kids to my parents house for Thanksgiving (which we typically spend there). She had been saying things lately about not going with us. I told her this might be our last Thanksgiving together as a family and asked if she was please come. She conceded but brought up an old thorn.
Something that's been a thorn in our sides for years was how my dad hugs her occasionally. He'll come up behind and give her a big hug. It creeps her out. She was raped when she was a teenager and there are parts of that apparently still affect her. It was about 5 years ago she'd asked me to confront my dad about how he hugs her. I basically did all the WRONG things, telling her she was overreacting and my dad is NOT a perv, that's just how he hugs, etc... years of this. After doing some reading and soul searching and really listening to my wife I decided she was right. It makes her uncomfortable, I really should say something. But one of my issues is I avoid conflict like the plague. I decided it was time to deal with this awkwardness and talk to my mom/dad about it. I called them up,apologized up front that this would be an awkward call and explained the sitch. My parents took it quite well and wished I'd told them years ago. If i'd known how easy that was going to be, i woulda.
Told my wife when she got home that i'd talked to my folks and she wanted the play by play details of the conversation. The entire weekend she'd just randomly say "I can't believe you told your parents..." proceeded by what appeared to be deep thinking. I asked a few times, "Was that ok?". And she'd basically give me a mixed response like "Not sure..."