I think its over help pls

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I have a couple of other threads going but they are seing little traffic so here is the latest. We are about 8 weeks past DDay. W and OM who WAS close family friend had EA/PA after she spent some time alone she grew more distant. She went through the whole anger resentment phase. Reportedly the affair is over. However I doubt it. But both WS claim it is. I am in contact with OM Spouse.
Last week OM made closure call since then their contact has increased as well as her contact with others. Or at least another number. Things she said were bad long before the A started she said she told me. She hinted she said, Straight foward english would have been good. She was a young mom. We have 5 kids 4 11 and under we are both 37. Role reversal at home due to employment.
This is what happened this morning. Well what to say what to do? At this point I don't know If any action matters. We just talked a little after she said she was going out to look at places. I acted nice. I said nicely, paraphrasing: so essentially you are done with me, nothing I can say will change anything you do and you are going to move out. Her response: I guess so. (seperation and the D word not mentioned)
I kindly thanked her for a good 15 years that I thought were good, as she left and hugged her. Maybe this was not the best Divorce busting move.
She has kept this line of statements coming since D-Day. She says all this began long before the affair. So does anything I do matter? A Plan, B Plan, Div Busting, 7 Step. I mean I will keep doing the 180's because it is bettering me which makes my home better for the Kids. But the W. Is there any point. What a shame. If she had only directly stated her issues over the years instead of hinting. I feel as though I just need to move on.
Next couples counselor appointment in 9 days. Is it even worth exposing the affair? She says also wether or not she talks to OM this is her path so it doesn't matter. I directly asked if the plan was for OM to move in she claims to be doing this for herself with no clue what OM is doing?

Thanks again everyone

I hope Tomorrow is better than today.

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