Letting go is a decision that you make and then you take steps to effectuate that. Eventually, your feelings line up with your intentions.
It's DBing because it's part of putting yourself in the best possible situation to live a healthy life and to be capable of having a healthy relationship in the future with anyone. In this way you are preparing yourself for a life without him and maximizing your chances at reconciliation. However, you (and I) need to accept the fact that reconciliation is possible, but unlikely, at this point,
