Do you think it is possible that you might be projecting a little here? Your posts seem motivated by anger, which is not helpful to anyone. It is not fair to get into multiple pissing matches on someone else's thread. If you would like to have a general discussion about how to handle situations like this in general, please start another thread. I, for one, would feel more comfortable debating the issues there than on Marmie's thread. This is supposed to be about her, not you.
