CMNM, dont thank me, it's normal.

#1: Yeah, I can see how this might be. But you for sure haven't got the hots for your spouse if you are cheating.
#2: My H loves the other person (according to what he has said)
#3: Yes. I think my H thinks that the only person who understands him and wants him to be happy is the OP.

One last q, when did you and your H split?