How do I deal with now he's overseas?

[newmama]

Oh and I agree with G- GAL without the self help books is WAAAAAY more fun and helps more with detachment than reading the books about how badly we screwed up in our relationships and what terrible communication habits we have and how to change and oh boy....depressing and overwhelming!

Put that relationship rebuilding stuff on the back burner and you will come back to it in a natural way. Hard to explain but I think it must be a process or something. Heck, maybe it prevents you from being detached and that's why it doesn't go well with GAL!