How do I deal with now he's overseas?

[Piano]

Yep ^^.

CMNM, thanks for chiming in. I was almost paralysed by the conflicting advice. My advice to any newbie would be along the lines of most of the good advice here --- detach from the situation, remove yourself from the drama so you can stop and THINK. If you react to the WAS's crazy antics, you are only getting in the mud with them and then nobody can lead the way out of the crisis. But hey, I ONLY know this in hindsight. I didn't know then what I know now - now I know it in my bones, before it was all nice theory. That's life..we all heal and get a hold of ourselves at different paces, and by then the WAS could be so far down their path that no "saving of the M" can take place.

I'd be interested in looking at your sitch. Where do you post?