Rysmom,
I really don't get why you would ask for such an extravagant gift! It is not as if your son had the means to pay for such a thing, so it really wasn't from him anyway.

I am troubled by this.
I feel as if you wanted to have some kind of proof that your H cared enough to pay for something like that.

In the past you have complained about finances and him being a spendaholic...

By asking for such a gift you have undermined the very things you complain about.
And you have shown that you have not even begun to detach.

I feel sad...
I doubt that the pendant can bring you much happiness, now that it is all said and done.
Can it?