i walk in the house and he is on the MAC again. i turned the computer off so we could talk for a minute without him looking at that smut and he pushed me out of the room, locked the door, and so then he's watching that disgusting stuff in our home and laughing at me! so he's all defiant now.
First of all, (((hugs))). We have all been through some kind of shock or bomb that puts that horrible feeling in your stomach and doesn't allow you to get any sleep...
You have several people trying to help you, but it must be confusing to be getting such different advice.
I quoted the portion at the top because the details of this can make a huge difference.
You said: You walked in and he was on the computer again. You didn't say: Was he looking at porn, or was he simply on the computer?
You said you turned the computer off. You didn't say if you walked over and did this with no warning (like his mother), or asked if you could turn it off so you could talk.
(I am guessing it was the latter, since you were then ushered from the room)
You said that he pushed you out of the room. You didn't say if he physically pushed you, or if he demanded you leave.
You say he locked the door, You didn't say if he said anything at all while doing this. Or what you were saying while this was happening.
You say that he is watching "that disgusting stuff" at your home and laughing at you. Is that perception, or is he actually laughing at you and telling you he can do what he wants?
This may seem nit-picky, but it really does make a difference. The word "addict" is being thrown around, and it is a strong word. If you believe this is the case, what evidence do you have that he is addicted?
It is just curious to me that this is relatively new, you have caught him once (maybe twice...not sure because I can't tell if you have now decided that each time he is on the computer that is what he is doing), and suddenly the "addict" label is being put here.
I know this is an emotional time for you, but the less emotion and more fact that you can put into your posts will help people to help you.