How do I deal with now he's overseas?

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Geez, you leave your thread for a minute and all kinds of activity pops up!

Hello Trugritter, hello Clark Kent.

Before we get into the nitty gritty, can I straighten out a few points and it might throw some light on why I seem to be continuing to coddle him:

1. I need him to help me finish my citizenship application. One more step is involved, and my citizenship is secured. This is for my FUTURE. If I piss him off, he will pull the plug. I have lost so much already; this too?

2. My husband left me in January. He separated from me, never told me anything but that we were over and that I needed to move on. It' s like we are already divorced. He is not cheating behind my back. He is in a new relationship with his former affair partner. I don't consider that cheating. It's painful, but he's no longer hiding her. They live together!

I have to make H accountable financially for what he has done.

I cannot do the rest for him.

I can only be the best me possible.


I invite more comments.. maybe I am missing something?