I know you never advocated that. My only point was that it's time to proceed with caution. We are only hearing Marmie's perception of this and she probably knows very little about her H's state. She shouldn't be taking any action regarding her H and the M until her she is in more control of her own emotional state. She first needs to address her own crisis over this and possibly her own safety. Once that's done she can decide the next step.
