MP, I never suggested confronting this guy again. I was the first person on this forum to advocate dealing with this seriously while most others (excluding Steve McQueen) have been pushing a coddling approach instead.
Why on earth would anyone advocate coddling an addict like this? It's being advocated all over this forum...
You can't stop the bleeding in a household where an addiction is running unchecked.
Coddling addictions enables them to escalate into emotional or even physical abuse.
Cheeseless tunnels? The only tunnel that needs to be explored here is addiction.. Which is what I suggested in my first post eight pages ago but no one wanted to hear it. Our "dbmod" went so far as to say outright to marmie that my advice was "wrong" and shouldn't be followed.
I am just shocked at the coddling that goes on here for days and days. This case should have been dealt with as an addiction from day one. Almost all of this subforum's cases should be dealt with as an addiction from day one.
Instead that advice is deleted or edited and a coddling approach is endorsed in its stead?
I would like to see people take responsibility for these risks and address addictions seriously from day one... Not nine pages later.
I, for one, am sorry marmie and apologize that this wasn't addressed sooner.
This is an addiction and should be addressed as one. Please re-read the advice I offered up on the first page of this thread and get in touch with social services.
DO make people in your life aware you are experiencing abuse in your home and you need their support.
Detach from this man and his situation until he's taken ownership of it and offers yourself and other supporters reparations.
Don't talk to him, don't trust him, and for the love of god don't coddle him trying to get in touch with how he feels.. that's ridiculous advice and should never have been followed.
