XH is off his pedestal and I'm moving forward

[MHL]

Hey GAG,

Sorry I have been MIA, just started a new job last week and I have been very busy. Just a few observations.....

BMF was probably feeling like XH was becoming more open toward me and is threatened by it.

Okay, again you are looking too hard at this book thing and furthermore you are already pinning it on BMF......remember it does not matter who the hell sent the book, right?????

There is someone out there that does not approve of your contact with your XH.....so what????? I hope that there is not any more conversation with your XH on this.....LET IT DIE!!!!! It is a recipie for problems, trust me. Additionally it is taking your focus off of where it should be..........YOU!!!!

I like everything Jody said about flirting and the theories there and I agree that the GF#2 is a place holder, a convenience of sorts. Plus your XH sounds like a "nice guy" so telling her to hit the road would likely hurt her and he is not going to do that without a good reason.

Oh and FTR, he is not doing anything to her by spending his time with you. They are not married, it does not sound like much of a committed R, so no biggie.....right???

Ask yourself this...."What is GF#2 doing while XH is with you????" Maybe GF#2 is out playing TT with some other dude??? Who knows, don't really care.

I want to remind everyone that most people in dating situations leave one partner for another and the relationships overlap. It is a fact.......accept it.

Now, back to GAG and the flirting. I went back and read your thread a week or 2 ago and I remember you talking about your first kiss with Mr. GAG. Did you not initiate???

Well guess what???.........nothing has changed.

You are going to have to initiate again. If his sexual needs are being satisfied with GF#2 and he is enjoying a more emotionally and intellectually stimulating R with you, then you need to let him know that you are a "one stop shop".

He can have it all with you. Great TT, Great Convo, Fun Times, Good Laughs,..........

and

GREAT SEX.........duh.

You want to get out of the "FRIEND ZONE", then get the hell out.

The next time you guys have one of those "nice" hugs......grab his a$$. I am sorry to sound crude but this is what is going to take. Imagine, your in the parking lot after TT and you have a hug and you reach down and "cop a feel" and then back off, bat your eyes and him and say goodnite, turn flip the hair and saunter off, leave him wanting more, or at least wondering. Let him know that the "shop is open for business".

I am going to tell you right now, this is not going to happen if you are waiting on him to make the move.

What do you have to lose ???

If he says something about it or questions you about it then you could say, "You know Mr. GAG...I still find you very attractive and......well, a girl has needs." and then let him drive for a little bit.

That response works no matter how he is feeling, meaning negative or positive.

Get it?????

If he responds and you guys get to advanced TT lessons, then you can worry about the status of the "soon to be ex-girlfriend" at that time.

Cheers