It's my anniversary today, so bear in mind I am speaking from a place of anger and sadness. (Anyone want to validate? )
I get the validation thing and I've become very good at it over the last year. It's pretty much second nature now. Didn't do much good because it turned out my W was hiding a mental health problem and an EA, but I get it and I would gladly have done that for her pre D-day if I had understood the need.
But when I'm anxious about something, I try to determine why I'm anxious, determine if there is anything I can do about and either do that or let it go. When I'm angry, jealous, etc., I work my way through it. I don't need anybody to listen, validate, etc., so it strikes me as somewhat dysfunctional that anyone would actually need that and it might make more sense for people who need that to figure out why and how they can accomplish this without the participation of someone else.
As I said, I would have been happy to do it, but it seems a little dysfunctional. I dunno - a little bitter this weekend.
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