]I write long letters to H about why he's being stupid and how angry and hurt I am, and then I shred them. My shredder is getting quite a workout!
This is a very good idea, however it also keeps the thoughts cycling around in your head. How about other outlets, ones that are more about trying to change the anger into something constructive...
Running, cleaning (I clean like a banshee when I am angry), household projects, kickboxing. Something where you can see concrete results that will make you happy in the end...
Originally Posted By: CajunRose
I think I'm angry now because I finally decided (again) to take back a little control of my life and start handling things like organizing house repairs, bills, etc. I'm angry that I have to take the effort, and live with the ensuing disruption, because of his choice.
While this is normal...
It is also the whole "this is so unfair" type of thinking that allows us to become the victim if we are not careful.
This is an opportunity for you, to know that this is all stuff that you can handle on your own. Realizing that we don't NEED another person in our life, especially when we have always had someone, can be liberating, and has the potential to change the way you view relationships.
Maintaining a friendly R with you S will benefit the children, shows him that you are still the "safe" place, and may benefit you in the future.
There is a fine line between being too available and letting them know you are still there.
I am confident that you can find that line.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
